Sex, Relationships & F**king: A Honest Advice Column Posted by Nathan S. on 05/19/12 | Filed under Girls, Features, Opinion, Sex & Relationships

(Why a picture of Rosa Acosta? Why not.)

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RefinedHype is about more than just rap. It's about rap, and booty and money and politics..and booty. Accordingly, I've always wanted to get some Sex & Relationship related material on the site, but could never figure out the right setting - until today.

Like many of you with wives/girlfriends/non-inflatable female companions, my crib is littered with women's magazines. Over the years I've noticed that these magazines always have some variation of a "What Guys Really Think" column, where women get a (supposedly) honest perspective on the workings of the male mind.

Truthfully though, every answer in those columns are complete bullshit. What dude is going to have his picture, name and city printed in a magazine that literally thousands of potentially hot women read and give an honest answer? Instead these columns should be called "What Guys Who Are Trying to Fuck the Readers of This Magazine Truly Think."

Since I created RefinedHype to be one of the few places on the interwebs that will actually tell it like it is, this seemed like a great chance to bring some realness to the game. For every "Sex, Relationships & Fucking" column I'll find three questions from a woman's mag and actually actually answer them.

First up, three questions from the esteemed Glamour:

Q: "We hooked up, but now he wants to take things slow. What's he thinking?"

So let me get this straight. You had sex with him and now he's pumping the brakes? You gave it up on the first date so something's seriously wrong if a dude is turning down guaranteed sex. There are really only two options here:

One, the sex was so bad he doesn't want another slice. and if you gave it up that easy the first time around the sex must have been really bad.
Two, it became obvious that you're balls crazy and the sex wasn't good enough for him to risk having his house burned down.

You clearly need to step your sex game up, or your craziness game down. One things for sure though, this has nothing to do with him wanting to build a relationship with you. If he really cared about you he'd be building the relationship while continuing to fuck you.

Q: Will a guy not finish during sex specifically because the girl has not and he feels bad?

Um....I'm not sure I understand your question. You mean will a guy not come in a specific moment because you haven't, or during the entire sex session?

Yes, of course there are dudes who will call before they come. It's a rush to know you got a woman off, and guys know the more they make you come the higher the chance that they'll get to have sex with you again - which, unless you're the chick from the first question - is really the goal.

But if there's a dude alive who will walk away from a sex session unfulfilled entirely because you didn't come, I don't know him. What's the point of everyone walking away unhappy, at least one person should get what they came for, you know?

On a semi-related note, ladies, you need to cut down on the span between saying "I'm going to come!!!" and actually coming. So we're on the same page, "I'm going to come!!!" means sometime in the next minute or so, not at some date before the end of the world. I don't need that much of a heads up, thanks.

Q: I think my guy friend of several years has feelings for me. He has never admitted it, but I just have that intuition. I either need to hear that he doesn't because he hasn't made a move or a good way of letting him know he's just a buddy.

Get over yourself. If y'all have been friends for that long and he hasn't tried anything yet he obviously doesn't want you. Sure, if you threw threw your vagina at him he'd probably catch it, but by no means does that mean he spends his days in unrequited lust for you.

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If you spot any questions you'd like to see get the RefinedHype treatment feel free to pass them along to nathan(@)refinedhype.com. And ladies, if you've got any questions you actually want honest answers to feel free to send them in as well - although fair warning, I'm actually going to answer you.