Dear Kat Stacks, When Did Being a Ho Become Cool? Posted by Mike Dreams (Michael A. Hannah) on 04/02/10 | Filed under Top Stories, Features, A Dreamer's Perspective

When did being a 'ho" become cool? I'm sorry to be so straight forward, and if you get offended, I apologize in advance, but I need to use such an abrasive approach to get your attention. Let's talk about this today, because somewhere along the way, we've accepted this as okay, including myself; and I still do a little bit), which is the great juxtaposition. But there is some sort of a reason for this. Something has been programmed in our minds to make us cosign such open ho-ness.

Why is this topic on my mind? Well, this week, some random chick popped up on the internet named Kat Stacks. n a less classier (for LACK of a better word) way, she got her "Superhead" on and told the world via YouTube video that she had slept with multiple rap artists., including a $1200 rendezvous with Young Tunechi himself.


Now, most of the people laughed it up, but people like me, I shook my head at such nonsense and disregard for self-respect. Now, I'm going to keep it real, I'm not the saintliest saint when it comes to women, because I am a man. I do try wholeheartedly to respect women every day. I think women are beautiful creations on God's Earth. But I'd be lying if I didn't say I admire their appearance every once in a while in a way that some could find slightly objectifying. It's just the nature of myself as a male. But after the initial hormonal reaction based on natural instinct, I start to analyze and look at things deeper than just appearance or the fact that I can have sex with her. I start to look at how a woman carries herself and how much she respects her own body and existence. The more and more I look around, I see young girls and women alike feeling like being objectified is okay.

Now, I could talk about this topic all day, because there are LOTS of different types of accepted objectification around now, but I'm not going to go in depth with that; at least not today. But I will talk about the women who are BLATANTLY just being "hoes" like it's a new dance or hairstyle. I am baffled because I want to know WHY has this become more accepted that it ever has been in the past? WOMEN, I want to know; what is it that has made this cool to you? Has the years and years of degradation in male hip hop videos like Tip Drill and BET Uncut finally took its toll on your and made you cave in? Maybe it's the new wave of female rappers, or one in particular that serves as a "role model" for you, yet she teaches you all to be lesbian sex addicts.

Now, I'm not hating on anyone. Like I said before, I'm a walking contradiction myself at times (*turns up newest Nicki Minaj record), but I truly want to know what is the reason for a young woman like Kat Stacks to get on the internet in from of millions upon billions of people and pronounce how much of a ho she is, in hopes that it will bring her to superstardom. It's bad enough that someone like Karrine Steffans was able to do it and make so much revenue from it. I think her trick (no pun intended) was the fact that she could present herself as a respectable woman on shows like Oprah and what not, and make herself look like the victim, when really it was her marketing scheme and angle all along. From a literal standpoint, that makes her a corporate harlot. From a marketing standpoint, that makes her rich from the people who fed into the garbage and gossip filled lifestyle that they wish they could have, because for some reason, they aren't satisfied with their regular life . But this Kat Stacks girl didn't go that route at all. She didn't get all dressed up in a business suit looking like the first lady and write a book about her exploits, making it almost commendable that she was an industry "pass-around" girl because she turned it into revealing literature. No. Kat Stacks basically went worldwide and said "I'm a ho, now go to my website and look at random pictures of me posing sexily and read more about my ho-ish exploits. Oh, and by the way, every click gets me more money."

And do you know what the sad part is? It just might work. The fact that I'm even writing an article about her is giving her more publicity. So I really want to find out, is this what it's going to be from now on? Are women being "hoes" and objectifying themselves going to be the new trend and start to be accepted. Will self-respect become a thing of the past? Will we never see an artist emerge like Lauryn Hill again, who prides her success on her actual talent and not her sex appeal? What type of influence will these ways of thinking have on the next generation, and how they act or even perceive things. For example, in a world glorified by hoetry, it's hard to decipher nudity used as a visual art form for poetry from blatant smut and objectification. Will women like Kat Stacks be the reason someone will see the new Erykah Badu "Window Seat" video and instead seeing the art and understanding the symbolism, all they'll see is another woman getting butt-naked on screen for attention and selling sex?

It's all about images and how we begin to perceive things. With people like Kat Stacks around, it seems women having self-respect and morals is slowly becoming a thing of the past. It's just something to think about. This has been "A Dreamer's Perspective". What's yours?

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